I was driving home from work the other day, listening to the radio. Someone was talking about avoiding negative people, aka haters, and ways to live happy lives. It got me thinking and wanted to create a few points of my own.
1) Don’t compare yourself and don’t be envious of others.
It’s hard not to compare ourselves to others in the world we live today. Getting bombarded with ads, TV social media and so much more. Models, actresses and social media influencers showing really unrealistic expectations of how to live our lives and how to look. Additionally, you are scrolling down your Facebook newsfeed and you see friends and family all getting engaged, married, having kids, traveling and so on. With all these things happening on a daily basis, it is easy to get into the mindset of thinking about your own life and about things that you are not doing or doing wrong. But that’s the thing, that is THEIR life and not yours. There is no standard about how to look or live your life. Life is about making ourselves happy, NO will do that for you but you, and the less you compare yourself to others’ look or achievements, the more self-peace you will have.
Lastly, to touch on the envious point, I think that envy is a problem, especially within the Latin@ community. People can get so envious of each and it is pretty sad. When one of our own is doing good and getting places, people are quick to talk bad about them y vuelan los chismes. Deep down, those negative words come from envy from within. Instead, we should encourage each other to reach our full potentials, congratulate those doing well and admire each other for our hard work. When one of us Latinas makes it, we all make it.
2) Don’t listen to the familia.
A lot of us have heard it, “Mija ya te miras mas gordita.” (Mija, you are getting fatter.”) “Mija cuando te vas a casar?” “Mija, pero tu prima…” blah blah blah… We have all heard some kind of comments from our mom, aunt, abuelita, cousin ect. BUT WHO CARES?! Don’t feel pressured or bad when you are getting all these questions about what other people think you should be doing. Take it like a grain of salt and let it roll. Next time they tell you something just answer with “ Ahorita me siento feliz y tengo otras prioridades,” (I feel happy at the moment and I have other priorities.”) Trust me, that will shut them up.
3) Live in the moment.
Don’t worry too much about the future and don’t dwell on the past. Like they say, yesterday already happened and tomorrow is never a sure thing. Focus on today, the here, the now. Look around at the blessings you have in your life. Be the best YOU can be now, TODAY! Forget about mistakes you’ve made and don’t worry about what the future holds. Next time you feel worried, anxious or unhappy, close your eyes, breathe and smile- you are alive!